Thursday, January 17, 2013

No Term Limits

Just some thoughts I wanted to share:

Last night I saw this short article about ways to spark up your relationship if you are in a "long-term relationship." I shared some of the ideas with Matt. They were decent, but nothing we couldn't have come up with ourselves - just nice reminders of fun things to do. What I really wanted to talk about was a comment Matt made about the title of the article. He mentioned that the term "long-term relationship" seems kind of funny. I realize they were appealing to both married and non-married couples who have been together for several years, but I also think he makes a good point.

We discussed how if you are in a long-term relationship, why would you call it "termed" at all? It's not like you'd want to put terms limits on a relationship that will hopefully continue to last. I realize we were probably thinking about it too much - the writer of the article was mainly using that to differentiate and focus on people in that situation. Then again, how often do you hear someone say "Oh, I'm in a short-term relationship" as if they know it's going nowhere? I realize that does happen, but that just never appealed to me. Even before I met Matt, I didn't want to go out with someone if I knew I couldn't see myself possibly being with them indefinitely.

I also realize there are terms such as "committed relationship" which get across a similar idea without the word "term." So that's what Matt and I are in. No term limits on this marriage! It will still be Carver-Carver in 2016, 2020, 2024, and as far into the future as we can see.

1 comment:

  1. Very thoughtful. :) I had 2 views directed from your blog today! Thanks!

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